FACT: Being ambitious, empowered and successful while simultaneously being liked by everyone is IMPOSSIBLE. One of the cosmic battles that exists is the desire for acceptance, love – or basically the fear of rejection – wrestling with our desire for SUCCESS! In other words, the idea of becoming massively successful in any area of life (health, business, relationships, etc.) and also being loved by all is simply unrealistic desire. For every successful individual you will find a sufficient volume of critics. Now it’s easy to discuss this of celebrities , as we know every famous actors, artist, musicians have his/her fair share of “enemies”, but it isn’t easy to digest when we take ordinary individuals (like you and I) and balance and weigh our desire for success against the fear of rejection.

Why do you think every successful hip-hop artists that makes it, has a song dedicated to their OWN haters? Jay-Z knows ALL about them.

How much resistence do you think a young Steve Jobs expereinced when wanting to change the landscape of consumer computer products?

It’s a known psychological fact that people are MORE lead by their fears then they are their desires. As humans we will take more action at a sense of loss than we would for chance at opportunity.

Success takes massive leadership, and with leadership one is exposed to possible rejection. You step outside with your shoulders and head held high, confident and empowered, excited to change your life you’ll find out very quickly the amount of cynics in your life – both family, friends and strangers that are saying to themselves, “who the f*ck do you think you are?” – “what makes you so special!?” – “you’ve got A LOT of nerve to have that much ambition in this economy!” – “I’m not materialistic like you, I just trust God.” – “ etc. etc.

Go through life with this type of empowerment and prepared to get slapped!

If your laughing its cause you know what I mean. If you are saying, oh that’s not true…. You are probably who I am talking about.

Yes, I am being partly sarcastic (not really), maybe you’re someone that is genuinely happy to see others “making it happen” and by “making it happen” I’m simply stating that one is excelling in certain areas of life. For the sake of this article we’ll focus on financial success, (since money makes people so emotional). There is another universal truth that comes to play and that is: friends are willing to help you and be happy for you, but they just don’t want to see you go TOO far.

Bullshit you say? Maybe, but think about it. You may be saying to yourself, “they aren’t you’re true friends then!” But I’m letting you know they are.

You see it’s more about THEM then it is about YOU.

Ever get a group picture where your eyes are half closed or you are looking away or simply don’t look your best, while someone else say’s – “great picture!”

Why is that?

It’s because they happen to look great in the photo!

Life works the same way… when others ask you to delete such a group photo – you realize its more about their insecurity than it is about you.

Let’s bring it back to our subject here. You go out there, start a business, join network marketing, decide to lose weight, change your life, etc. and you OWN this desire… you are now “Photoshopping” a group photo that includes you, your family and friends and retouching your individual pose. The more beautiful you make yourself, the less they feel about themselves. And who like to feel less? Nobody.

Why do you think overweight people tend to hang out with other overweight individuals?

"Were all friends until one of us goes on a diet. At that time we'll talk crap on her and hope she fails."

Next time you go out to dinner –have everyone order before you – as they each order Bacon Cheeseburgers and fries and Coke …when it’s YOUR turn … order yourself salad with water and feel that tension. Kind of makes you feel apologetic right? And for what? Wanting to be healthier?

This my friend is a microcosm of life…

It’s a sad truth.

Here’s the kicker of this article… take a look at the opposite.

When we are depressed, have problems, emotional, practice self-pity – WE GET LOVE, ATTENTION and SYMPATHY! Ever wonder why people that have self-esteem issues, they’ve been told great and positive things in their life but they tend to focus on the negative? While the those that have been abandoned, beaten as a child, horrible upbringing that seem to excel in life, inspire and do amazing things!

You are depressed you get attention, you are successful you get ignored and even hated.

WHY? Again it’s more about them than you. The lives of others sometime make you feel better about your life while the lives of some make you feel like you could be doing more. If our feelings are threatened we will fight to protect that. In my life that comes in the form of others waiting for me to fail, saying I am obsessed with success, out of touch, or the main culprit of simply attacking the legitimacy of network marketing due to a negative article found online.

Everyone that is ANYONE who has challenged the direction of their life and has done something about it by massively taking documented and visible action has experienced rejection; externally and of internally from others.

This fear of rejection is very real my friends. “Haters” exist. I’m not saying that it’s easy to deal with, but I want to share that it is more about THEM than it is with YOU.

It’s the inevitable that rejection has kept some of the world’s potentially greatest contributors undiscovered.

Don’t let it be you.

Of all the questions and inquiries I have received, the consistent concern and allure of Internet Marketing and Lead Generating systems seems to be on the top of many marketers minds. I have patiently watched this up and down trend ever since the genesis of some of the first successful Network Marketers whom have found massive success online. Since then I watched hundreds and thousands of people flock to the Internet and these so-called “systems” in hopes of finding the treasure that is an automated and simple way of building a downline online. Here are my thoughts on this topic – as I uncover and share with YOU the truth about this platform.

Just Keeping It Real,

In network marketing the only variable the consistently EXCEEDS the (high) failure rate is the ambition of those that pursue their dreams. Although that sounds nice and sweet…the truth is that the high failure rate continues to thrive.

I of course know for a FACT that much of that is contributed to people quitting too early… however I also contribute this to an overabundance of regurgitated “fluff” information and training. As someone who is personally breaking through (statistically speaking) to be considered successful in the industry, I sometimes find myself looking back and saying to myself, “they NEED to be told the hard truth and not this feel-good sunshine of rhetoric.” As a marketer I also realize that is not always the smartest avenue of marketing.

I’ve decided to not only embark on sharing this gesture on all of my future content, but in fact I have decided to collaborate with some leaders in the industry and my business partners that also share in this “non-fluff” sentiment. There are three of us collaborating on an incredible new site that is best described as “unforgiving.” Along with being motivated, inspired and educated – we will make certain that the common denominator will be not what we want to say, but more of what you NEED to hear.

Make certain to follow this site as a join collaborative of some of the most experienced and successful “NON-BS” minds in the industry. Get ready to experience – “Allergic To Failure” – Coming Soon.

Stay Connected to this movement on the Facebook Page.

Keeping it REAL,

Why is it necessary to approach the closet people to you in the beginning of your business? What are the TWO main reasons behind people NOT being happy for you and your success in Network Marketing.

If they hate then let them hate, and watch the money pile up!

…I have been saying this for years (..well 4.5 years to be exact)! Now, before you get your panties in a bunch; let me start by saying that as a College Graduate-I respect what higher education can provide – by way of discipline and personal development – but the question I bring up is simply this: What is the value? ….and at what cost?

Whoa,

Have fun + Opportunity to make a fortune = Direct Selling.

This video simply states what it is. Enjoy.

It really is THAT much fun,

I am NOT the one to make excuses – so I didn’t want to blame my upcoming nuptials as the cause to my lack of consistent new material… however since the day has passed- yes I absolutely blame a large amount of stress and distraction with my wedding that took place this past weekend. A wedding planner you ask? Yes, of course I had one of those, however (and those of you that have experience) will agree that the planning of a wedding consumes you or at least as a guy, your significant other will make certain it consumes you as much as it does her! Suffice to say adding new content to the site was just NOT possible! (Again, not making excuses…. just saying.)

With that being SAID; April 2, 2011 was the happiest day of my life so far! I was able to officially marry the love of my life Natalia in the presence of my closest friends, family and business colleagues (which are my friends too – you get the point). The ceremony took place Aliso Viejo, CA. at a very exclusive and private site overlooking the Laguna Hills Canyon – absolutely gorgeous. I’ll admit I was much more emotional that I thought I would be, but then again I could never begin to prepare for such an experience. For me it was as much spiritual as it was emotional. The feeling of being redeemed of all your past relationship insecurities and heartache; culminating with the moment in which you are standing face to face with the one that you have been blessed with, to share the rest of your life with …. is indescribable.

Yikes! Sorry for the increased mush-factor but all in all take it as my excuse for a lack of new content. Consider this the doctors note you would take to your teacher for missing school so you would not be frowned upon and not be punished for missing class! (I’ve included pictorial evidence).

“Getting married is a way to show family and friends that you have a successful personal life. It’s like the ultimate merit badge.”,” Andrew Cherlin, (sociologist at Johns Hopkins University and the author of The Marriage-Go-Round: The State of Marriage and the Family in America Today.)

Got Myself A Badge!

What does  an up and coming hip hop artist have to do with Independent Network Marketers? Find out for yourself and see if you can pick up on several parallels in this first video of the ‘My Platform’ Video Series. In order to find success in business, music, relationships or just life in general… once must face their past and take account of the errors and also in many ways, stand upon those obstacles as a platform of redemption and success.

In my opinion, no one does it better than the rapper or hip hop artist. Time and time again we hear songs of trials, error, objections, obstacles, pain and ultimately overcoming it all.

Although I am not a musician, I feel in many ways network marketing has given me the opportunity to overcome so many of life’s shortcomings of a broken family, economically challenged upbringing, etc. Listen as I sit with Brett Guidry AKA MC IMPRINT as he shares his story.

Friends; music or business, the themes DO NOT change….. enjoy.

I hope that this post finds everyone well; as we are a week deep into the second month of 2011. I have been quite busy building business and helping develop a number new leaders that are well on their way to impacting the lives of so many more. In addition I will be getting married in a few months (eeek), so do forgive my lack of recent material on the site. However…. that is about to change!

It has become evident to me that there are a large percentage of my viewers and subscribers that are not actually network marketers (mainly employees). In fact, they have very little idea of what it is that I do, or what this site stands for.

I believe that as we enter a time where independent business and network marketing become more and more widely known – it is a good idea that I take one step back to establish my values and standards; setting my platform on several issues. Mainly why the average person is CRAZY for NOT building some sort of an asset for themselves and/or why an MLM distributorship may be their greatest option.

This will provide MASSIVE and simplified value/analogies to aid and support you in building your business – but also giving this site a platform on where I stand on various topics such as: ‘The value or lack thereof for higher education’, ‘the pit of owning a traditional small business’, ‘the total misconception of this industry’ and the issue of ‘loving money,’ to name a few. I will also include some interviews with people you NEED to hear from.

So with that being said my friend…. I AM BACK (not that I ever left)! Stay tuned for this series of videos to begin rolling out in the next week!

The value of this particular video and message I believe is self-explanatory. Do place this example to your own goals. How obsessive are YOU to meeting your goals? Nobody said it would be easy.

Here’s to unwavering dedication to see things through,